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Yes, our children were born in our bedroom

February 3, 2011

For me, labor and giving birth has been a relaxing, empowering, spiritual experience. I am aware that’s not how the majority of women would describe labor… don’t get me wrong, it’s hard work, it’s intense, and, at times, painful, but it’s a great honor and I love it nonetheless!

38 weeks pregnant... 5 days before Phineas' birth

Something changed in me after giving birth and becoming a mother.  I draw on those incredible moments when my boys were born to help inspire me to fully love my children at all times, to take responsibility for how I bring them up, to be diligent in making choices that are the best for them. Being a mom inspires me to be a better person. I want to be a good example, so I strive to move forward in becoming a loving, selfless, patient mother, wife, friend…

Moment's after my firstborn came into the world

I am grateful for our midwife, Katia, who has educated me so much, who gladly answers all my calls and questions about everything pregnancy and childbirth, and who always encourages me.  I am grateful for my husband, the man who said to me, “no child of mine is going to be born in a hospital unless it’s medically necessary!” when we started the “let’s have babies” conversation. Before that, I knew nothing about birth or birth options, and HE is the one who led me to look at out-of-hospital options.

Moments after my second-born came into the world

I am not yet emotionally ready to get into the hospital vs. out-of-hospital birth debate on a public blog yet, but I will say that I highly value the midwives model of care. If more hospitals/OB’s offered a model of pregnancy and childbirth care that not only monitored the physical well-being of the mother and child, but that also provided mothers with individualized education, counseling, and prenatal care, as well as continuous hands-on assistance during labor and delivery, and postpartum support, and who minimized technological interventions, then I would be more willing to consider a hospital birth.  Alas, the hospital births I have seen have been stressful, pushy, over-intervened, and, the care, grossly impersonal. My conclusion, I will only go to a hospital to give birth if my midwife says I need OB/hospital care or if, for some reason, there is no other option. As long as I’m low-risk and hospitals won’t offer the environment that best helps me birth peacefully and efficiently, I’d prefer to be at home, thanks!

If you’d like more info on homebirth and out-of-hospital birth, I’d be glad to share, from research on its safety and how midwives are trained, all the way to laboring tips! There are a several great links to get you started on the right sidebar of my page.  You are always welcome to email me with ANY questions!  If you’ve read this far down because you’re just THAT interested, I’ll even send you the link to Phineas’ BIRTH video…(no worries, just shows me in the tub and the bit of pushing right before he was born in the pool.)

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5 Comments leave one →
  1. nicole permalink
    February 4, 2011 12:26 AM

    Phineas’ birth was the most beautiful thing i have ever been a part of in my entire life. A child being born is so incredible. I of course had known that but being a part of it is a totally other experience. It’s how it is supposed to be— not stressful and chaotic. also— i never saw the video?!?

    • February 4, 2011 8:24 AM

      I’ll send you the link!

  2. Lara antique permalink
    February 4, 2011 10:40 AM

    Hi Jess! I admire your passion for all things natural and wholesome! It would be so cool to hear your perspective on how God worked in you and brought you to this place. I have several friends/acquaintances who feel the same as you but I never get to hear the spiritual/biblical side of their experiences instead of it just sounding like a “cause.” even if it’s just a cause I highly respect it, just would love to see it more in the light of the gospel, since all of the people I know who live this lifestyle are Christians. I love your heart for the lifestyle and often feel too weak to even approach it! (even though v was purposefully born free of pain killers and unnecessary drugs in our case)

    • February 4, 2011 11:17 AM

      Thanks Lara, I believe God calls us to be good stewards and caretakers of the things he’s given us, the earth, our children, etc… so that is my main motivation behind all this, how to be a better wife, mother… etc. Basically, become more Christlike…
      I might just do a whole entry on this…

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